A rooshvforum member commented regarding some murderous thug who had no problem attracting the ladies:
… A psycho with those character traits should forever end up in the sexual wasteland, always being too “creepy” for any woman to have contact with for longer than 10 seconds. Instead, he probably has more notches and adoration than 10 common betas together. Seeing this gap between female preferences on paper and in reality makes me really sad.
If reality makes you sad, you have three choices:
1) remain forever sad
2) change reality
3) adapt and adjust to reality.
I’m sure none of these are palatable choices. Let me know if you have any other alternatives.
A bulk of our primate and human evolution of emotions occurred when we lived in small groups. We would gossip a lot in order to influence the agreed upon group rules, and therefore influence the behavior of others to our favor. Now that our groups are larger and our gossip is ineffectual to change the gestalt of opinion – or more importantly to change the behavior of those with power – we still act as if our voiced opinions are a form of social activism. Free Tibet!
But we can face it – we aren’t going to change society. It’s a deeply held emotional hope, but it’s not a realistic hope.
Our opinions are not activism, and people will continue to act out of self interest, regardless of what we think they should do for the benefit of the group.
Influencing women through moral persuasion is a lost cause.
Persuasion requires an intimate knowledge of reality – what buttons actually work. And for women we have a wide range of options that work to mens benefits – but changing their sexual preferences is not one of those options. We can seduce them without being a thug, but we can’t stop them getting attracted to thugs or going for the bad boys.
Holding ideals that the world can never live up to is a form of self torture.
And it is a choice whether we adapt emotionally to the world we live in or not. We are not at the choiceless mercy of a cruel world to feel alienated and disgusted by it. “Why isn’t everyone a vegetarian!” We can emotionally adapt and find our happy place in this world.
Snoeperd said:
I like the explanation of activism as modern gossip; I never understood why people do something like that. Biggest examples for me are that liking something on facebook should somehow help those affected or that women spend all their time handcrafting some crap to sell it whereas they couldh’ve been a lot more to the cause if they got a productive job and donated the money to said cause
Snoeperd said:
Why don’t you have a top post section or categories btw?
xsplat said:
I used to have a categories section, but then was too lazy to categorize the posts, and most went under misc.
As for the top posts, there is a widget for the most viewed posts, but I’m not sure if those are the better ones. I’ll install it now…
…
I just added it to the bottom right, but “Top Posts & Pages by views are calculated from 24-48 hours of stats. They take a while to change.” so it’s mostly going to show recent posts.
Choosing my favorites by hand would be too much like work.
asdf said:
1) true
2) correct
3) just another version of giving up.
xsplat said:
My post is just a restatement of the serenity prayer.
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
—
And then it goes on, although I hadn’t read the rest before now:
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.
———
The 8th-century Indian Buddhist scholar Shantideva of Nalanda University expressed a similar sentiment:[13]
If there’s a remedy when trouble strikes,
What reason is there for dejection?
And if there is no help for it,
What use is there in being glum?
Or
For every ailment under the sun
There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it;
If there be none, never mind it.
xsplat said:
On the internet, you can find a clique of guys to commiserate with who are stuck in any of the stages of grief.
Anger especially.
When you seek out and surround yourself with peers who all share your stage of grief, it starts to look like a normal adaptation to a sick environment.
It is normal, but it’s not healthy.
Go all the way to acceptance. It’s the only way you’ll have inner peace and happiness.
And that’s what you want. Right?
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Don said:
How can a man try to adapt and adjust to this economic reality? It seems things are going from bad to worse.