It’s fine to focus on how to bed new girls. But what about after you get a girl? The chase is not even the first chapter of the book. Can be as little as the first paragraph. No limit to what’s possible after you catch a girl. Chase is merely chase.
It’s no accident nor anomaly. I’ve done this many times. 2.5 years living together, fresh and different sex many times a day, like rabbits. This is usual, and is a craft. It is a decision. It is a life art. A careful art.
Libido is not a mood. Libido is a cultivation.
So so so much value in bonding and partnering mutual care. It’s a forever deep craft, and it can work very well. I always have a loving personal attendant, constantly infatuated with me, and this is normal. This is craft, not luck.
It is a full life craft. Not a matter of pick up lines or some goals or mind sets. It’s a full life system. Being your best so that you can give and get the best out of your mate.
You can embody love, and be loveable. An object of devotion, every day. Giving love and fun every day, naturally. Because it’s completely natural. This can be YOUR personal normal. It takes time, but there are steps to get there; repeatable real methods and steps.
Lots of angst and discontent out there, but my house is always happy and fun. I’m dancing while the world goes crazy. Anyone else could dance too. It’s simply a choice.
A choice to take a path. But there is a path, and it goes somewhere.
When I first learned meditation, I was taught a rather mental form. Later I changed it and relaxed into the visual field, later learning that’s also a thing. Later I changed it again and now usually do more body centered meditation. Being embodied is important to me. An art.
There is nothing like the body rush of free form dancing with heavy barbells to a high powered song. Every muscle group you can find, plus cardio, plus rhythm. Fuck me that’s fun.
Few people know that you can listen to and co-create languages and moods and worlds in feelings in your body. It’s sometimes called chi-kung. A great source of balance or power or entertainment or healing or integration; it’s a doorway to you.
Just like creating music, the more you put into it, the more you get out of it. You not only express yourself, you find yourself. Integrate yourself. Give yourself new voices.
It’s a mystery to me why chi-kung is not more popular. It’s been an indispensable and huge value to my life. Indistinguishable from being me, and indispensable to being my best me.
Why don’t people know? You know how you charge your cell phone, so that it doesn’t run out of juice? That’s what chi-kung can do for sexual staying power. But it’s much more than that. You know how harmony and melody can create subtle moods? Sensitivity plus power.
A girl is a way to meditate. To become and express and share love. A girl is a way to be a householder every-day yogi. Some consider a girl indispensable to “enlightenment”, whatever that is. A girl is a way to really be who you are, but better.
If you want to deeply rock someones world, you have to be deeply rockable. If you want to rock out for years, that takes dedication and attention to the craft of rocking out.
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Random Xpat Rantings 
> Because it’s completely natural. This can be YOUR personal normal. It takes time, but there are steps to get there; repeatable real methods and steps.
Of course I like this post.
I give Game a more encompassing definition than you do, but I get your point. The chase is the chase… and not much more than that.
“Walking up to a woman and talking to her has nothing to do with the Game. It’s what you do afterwards – that is when the Game begins.”
– Steve William from the RedManGroup
So much emphasis on what to say. And the “perfect text message.” It’s so basic… and often those ideas have almost no impact on the man’s success.
I have been really into “LMR” as an example of place of focus that is deeper into Game than the opening lines. LMR is also “not very deep,” but it can show guys a change of focus then can recognize. What I learned from LMR last year I can use across the full spectrum of time with a woman.
I am increasingly into more “meta” qualities of game like “trusting yourself” and “tension” and other concepts that relate across the many stages of game. And I have been into “romance,” which isn’t typical Chapter One stuff. And I have been reading more Deida, and now a woman named Karen Brody (her book Open Her is fantastic).
And each step I take… I am less and less useful to beginners. I think that is true. I think I am harder and harder to understand. I bet some guys reading your post feel that way too… too far away to find the concepts familiar enough to even begin.
Further and further away from what less experienced men are ready to hear.
And I think of you, Xplat, as an example of that. I think you are for real. And I imagine many guys have no idea what you’re talking about. And that’s not your fault. You have “turned the corner” from where they are, maybe “twice,” and they can no longer see where you’re going at all.
The whole scenario is a great example of “stages of learning,” “when the study is ready the master will appear,” etc.
Great post. I am happy for you. I hope to follow behind you with some of this stuff.