Some years back Neuro Linguistic Programming became a fad when people realized they could apply that form of persuasion to seduction.
Last year Dilbert creator Scott Adams popularized the power of hypnotic 3-d persuasion, and related it to Trumps bid for the presidency.
Here is a talk by an FBI negotiator who reveals many powerful techniques of persuasion:
I was a travelling salesman, and would set up my mini-store full of wares on college campuses and at music festivals throughout the U.S. mid-west. I hung out with other sales-men, and lived the life of a sales man. My target audience was mostly college aged girls.
Sometimes I travelled with a crew of helpers, sometimes I travelled with my Indonesian girlfriend. When I was with her, I’d leave her to do the sales all day while I went back to the hotel to meditate. She was a great little sales girl.
How did she learn?
How do we learn persuasion?
What did I learn from hanging out with salespeople, and how did I learn it? What did I learn from simply putting myself behind a sales table?
In pre-historic times, the art of tool making was passed down from generation to generation, and in thousands of years the shape of the tools didn’t change. Apparently archaic human brains were less creative than modern human brains, but I still believe that we have some vestigial similarities in how we fundamentally learn. We mimic.
We are evolved with mirror neurons. We pay close attention, and we absorb, and we mimic.
As modern humans, we are not constrained to mimic exactly. We filter, and adjust to our circumstances.
First you find a mentor or hero, then you copy his style, then slowly you develop your own style.
But you can’t develop your own style without practice, and that means repeated exposure to your learning environment. As a comic, your ethos is to get up on stage and just do it as often as you can. It’s not only about if you crush it or bomb. It’s also about just getting up on that stage.
Because we need that feedback. Our body and mind will figure out the micro-adjustments. MOST of our adjustments will be sub-conscious. We learn timing. We learn inflection. We learn the value of silent space. We learn how respond with tangential near-non-sequiturs instead of logical facts. We learn how language influences. How body language influences. How eye contact influences.
Learning is not done in a vacuum. It’s not done through books. We need to firstly mimic. Then we need to practice.
I don’t believe that there are enough resources currently for mimicking.
I think it’s become more apparent lately that understanding the sexual market place is not about something that you can learn in a book. It’s about something that you can be.
What you are completely changes how you are perceived and dealt with.
The above sentence is the KEY to understanding the sexual market place.
You can’t just talk about how women are, as if you are not in the equation. Women are very different, depending on each individual man, and on the context. How women will behave towards certain words is a null question. The real question is how a woman will behave towards YOU.
And you are a sexually class-mobile person. You can change from zero to hero, if you’d like to, and are willing to put in the time and effort.
And if you can follow the simple steps, of how we learn.
I really believe that we can’t learn about either the sexual marketplace or about how to improve our dating lives from un-masculine men.
It’s not about book learning. It’s about starting with an appropriate mentor to mimic.
The best teachers will understand what they do, and be able to put that into words. But even the best teachers will not know MOST of why what they do works. They’ll only be consciously aware of a very small part of it.
Even if you study from a wide array of teachers, and put their best insights into practice frequently, you will still miss out on the bulk of those teacher’s value. Most of communication is non-verbal and too difficult to try to squeeze into words. We need to see it and absorb it.
As well as being imprinted by mentors, we are also imprinted by the women that we date. That doesn’t mean you’ll become feminine, don’t worry. It’s more subtle than that. Once you learn to embody the masculine polarity as genuine and with fun ease, you can appreciate and incorporate quite a lot of fun quirks that the girls you are into have. Might be just a way that they say a certain word. Might be an appreciation for a certain type of adventure. Even fucked up people usually have a few fun aspects worth internalizing.
There is no rule book of how the sexual marketplace works, and of how women behave. Because: what you are completely changes how you are perceived and dealt with. This is why we can’t learn from un-masculine men. They only understand how women treat un-masculine men.
One man’s impression about how most mentors in the red-pill PUA and manosphere scenes are not appropriate role models:
Relevant: If you are using Rollo’s mental map of the marketplace and see him as a mentor you need to know this https://www.scribd.com/document/412763803/Statement-on-Removal-of-RT-From-21