I have a long history of non-monogamy, however I also prefer to pair bond, so there’s been drama.
Most guys have fantasies about having a two girl one guy threesome. Some guys have tried it. Some guys do swinging or partner swapping or group sex or MMG threesomes.
I do quite a bit of role play with my girl; with every girl I’ve been with. It’s a great way to explore my own and her interests and drives. Sometimes we’ll role play while watching different types of porn. Again, a great way to find out what turns each of us on.
Me and my mate are both open and honest and into each others sexuality; I love to see her turned on. Some of the role plays are rather kinky; I probably shouldn’t kiss and tell.
But I’ll give a list of role plays that are common turn ons for girls. Very common. Too common to call kink.
* sex at a very young age
* sex with a relative, especially father
* sex as a high school student with her teacher
* sex as a secretary with her boss
* sex with multiple men in a row. Sometimes multiple relatives
* threesomes
* rape.
* multiple rape
* rape by relatives
* anonmous sex
* group sex
* cheating on her own boyfriend or husband.
* cheating with a husband with the wife at risk to find out
* being an uncontrollable slut
* being treated like trash
* being a prostitute
* violently dominant sex, including choking
And on and on and on.
Again, pretty well any kink you think of can be fun role play and is so common that you could almost consider it vanilla. Some couples hunt together for a fun little threesome girl that both like. Some people have interesting parties.
I’ve long tried to live with a pair or women that I love. I’m up for it; I could handle it and like it. I fall in love and pair bond pretty strongly, but I’ve also several times done that in parallel, and have been deeply pair bonded with more than one girl at a time, and had many periods of life when I usually had sex with more than one girl each day. Sometimes up to 5 girls were kept busy, but three is a more common number to have in the same city.
But last year I got really disappointed with the heartbreak. I’m tired of hurting people.
So I’m curious to lean into non-monogamy in a way that won’t stress out the girls. I have no idea how much jealousy I could handle, from group fun situations. I suspect I’m capable of a type of orgiastic group love and bonding.
Such ideas would not work for people with a high level of disgust and the moral trait of purity that goes along with that genetic trait. But I think it could be an interesting avenue of exploration into a more workable type of non-monogamy, that includes very deep pair bonds.
Me and my girl are very close. Might have kids even. I’ll be more able to keep her long term, from my end, if we are very accepting of each others pleasures. So far we are very much on the same page. She’s getting a lot stronger. Many girls take about two years to mature sexually, if they start out with little or no orgasmic experience. My girl now can almost have a full sex day holiday. She’s passed out comatose right now from too many orgasms, but I expect that her ability to come without losing her full battery charge will slowly increase over time, exactly like a runners stamina does with regular training.
Related:
Common “unusual” turn-ons for men
Female circuits of arousal
Random Xpat Rantings 
Incredible post. I was up most of the night thinking about it and its a relief to know that someone else has relationships like this and that its not the “work of the devil” as the ex-wife put it when blabbing to her friends and family every personal detail of our 20 year marriage. Xsplat is truly the best of the manosphere !
Even though she used the term “work of the devil”, I wonder if your wife is humble bragging.
You know, how women walking down the street complain to other women about being hit on and cat called too much to their other girlfriends, as a form of status signalling about how attractive other men find them.
We just did another rape play a few minutes ago, and I got into the role a little more than usual. Not violent, but I came up with a storyline that was about how I’d followed her home from Mcdonalds, waited until the neighbors were asleep, and then started raping her (attentively and with foreplay, not violently). I’d be leaving on a plane in a few hours, and was video recording the event. I’d leave $1000 bucks for her on the table, and if she made a fuss would show all her family and the internet the video. Then I told her that I was going to come in her as punishment for looking too sexy in Mcdonalds. That I knew deep down she needed it so bad, and was a little slut, and this was her punishment. When you role play, you can lose yourself somewhat in the role. It was a bit twisted and evil, but it also made both of us come. Strange way to learn about yourself and the girl, but neither of us is complaining.
We contain multitudes. Role play doesn’t show your “real” self. It just shows many different parts of your self, that you might not have explored fully yet.
I felt a bit weird about harboring inner bitterness at girls for dressing to turn men on and then not putting out, and wanting to punish them by coming inside them and splitting on an airplane. But she was fantasizing about having a rape baby, and felt no guilt whatsoever for genuinely enjoying being raped. “I like being raped”, she said, with great after sex satisfaction.
J’s sexuality has undergone a dramatic awakening lately.
That’s happened to several of my girlfriends in the past. Which for me is both pleasurable and sad – just like love always is. It’s sad to see many girls sexuality awaken to what seems to mere mortals as a hyper level, because of so much wasted sexuality. Most people don’t know how to fuck and if I think about that, it’s like thinking about how life leads to death. Flip side of the inevitable coin. Big love usually means big heartbreak.
Anyway, today we were much less conceptual in our sex. And I had a very right brained session on the piano, listening led to improv in a non-alalytical, playful, yet themes growing upon themes way.
I want to start a school and community, teaching chi-kung and chi-kung sex and other things.
Do you mean full on polyamory where both you and the girl can have others?
That is probably easier to pull of in the west. Especially in places like California where many are into that and it has more cultural acceptance.
I’ve seen her get very jealous from just seeing an innocent text message on my phone to an ex.
I’m really into her, and happy with her, and am a different person in ways I don’t remember being with other girls; that sense of longing when looking at stranger pretty girls is gone. I’m calmed down. Pair bonding never calmed me down like that before.
So I don’t want to risk our relationship just for variety. My idea, that we are both interested in, is having others join us in our bed.
Many girls talk a talk, but never walk a walk.
She would be less threatened by prostitutes. I’m not interested in prostitutes at all, and never have been. I like to make an emotional connection. That of course would be threatening to her.
But lately lots of pretty young girls have been flirting with me, when I go out. That’s either new for me or hasn’t happened in quite a while. I imagine it’s due to a combination of the psychological changes this relationship has fostered, plus a regular fitness regime changing my body shape. I imagine that a fit body even makes a face seem to look better too.
And it’s not just my imagination; J has seen and commented on other girls flirting with me.
So when I ask her not to get angry at me if I bring a little present for our bed home, it makes her jealous and confused. How else are we going to get a third for the bed?
Sometimes she says she’ll hunt online for people.
Nothing is urgent. We are content, and it seems more sexually active every day, if that’s at all possible. She’s turning into a little super star. Haven’t had one of those in a while. Although I suppose M turned into a little superstar after starting out as a very cold fish. Well, I suppose all the girls were superstars in their own way. But have you ever seen any Megan Rain porn videos? That’s what I mean by sexual superstar. That woman has a heroic sex drive and orgasmic ability. A real stand out.
J and I both really appreciate her, and she’ll say “I love you Megan” to the TV. Megan is especially great in orgies. So open, so beautiful, so full of appreciation and giving and able to receive and feel HUGE sexual energy. I really respect that.
We’re also thinking about bringing in a small teenage girl to help out with the chores and be our little sex kitten to play with.
we don’t use any birth control, and whereas before I rarely come in any girl, with J I am compelled to frequently do so. And I just shrug and laugh at her obvious lies about using birth control; she’s not on it.
I’ve lived with a woman who I got pregnant before, and for the first few years of having a baby. It can be extremely stressful. You really want all the social support you can get – as much of a village as you can muster. It’s crazy for a couple to try to stuff themselves into a house and handle it all by themselves. VERY stressful on a relationship.
So I told her it would be prudent for our relationship if we both had sex with our live in helper and she helped out with the baby.
I believe it too.
J and I don’t hide our “shadow” issues, and instead play with them. We act out our weird sexual fantasies and personas together. I’m way into her – she turns me on immensely. And it’s great to not only not have to hide hidden corners, but to scout about for new parts of each other to bring to the surface to play.
So we have NO problem whatsoever discussing bringing in a 2nd girl to live with. In fact it was her who brought it up, right after she brought up the idea of routinely bringing in girls to our bed.
I think it could be a better alternative.
I’m very skilled at relationship management, and am up to the task of living with two girls. I’m able to say that because of my very long history of having multiple girfriends who I was in mutual love with. Or just MLTRs of different classes, from fuck buddy all the way up to living together and trying to get pregnant.
I’ve tried so many times, with so many girls, to get a 2nd live in. I’ve wanted it for ages, the same way most guys want to at least try a threesome.
I’ve done threesome. That’s not a bucket list thing. And my desire for a live in 2nd isn’t exactly bucket list. It’s more of the same urge that I have for having a mate. Mate is great, mate times two could by more great.
For both of them.
In many FFM triangles, the women say they prefer it to a duality monogamy. The girls get to help each other with chores and lighten the load, have a close friend at hand, and it can be nice to not only rely on one person for 100% of the sex at all times.
“But last year I got really disappointed with the heartbreak. I’m tired of hurting people.”
This is what is stopping me from deep bonding. I haven’t been able to fully feel or allow a girl to feel for me, after I broke a girl’s heart badly, which happened after I had my heart broken badly.
I will tell girls: don’t fall in love with me, I don’t want to hurt you. And it’s stopping me from getting what I want, which is a deep emotional bond.