girls-fighting-over-manYour reaction to this post will be a guage of your solipsism, if you are female, or depth of your being plugged into the feminine imperative perspective if you are male.

My father took me to see one play in my life. The only part about it that I remember was the advice a woman’s friend was giving to her about what to do about her husband’s mistress. She told her to not force her husband to choose between them, because he would choose the younger girl. She advised her to keep her good life and remain taken care of, and swallow up her feelings. The play was set during the great depression, and all the rich guys were playboys. It was a surprising point of view to me at the time. But of course now I see that it is a child’s naivete that expects sensitivity and generosity towards one matron to rule a man’s choice of who to fuck.

Men of high socio-sexual score with experience and options react extremely negatively to jealousy, and especially cock-blocking. Not only is female jealousy a turn off, but it is reason for the man to leave you.

This would fit well into an evo-psych world-view. As we know, evolution is the term that is short-hand for genes mutating randomly and being “selected” for by reproducing into a genetic legacy of offspring. It makes sense that men with options who feel sensitive and generous to a mates demands for monogamy, who feel guilty and repentant and curb their desires will not be as genetically successful as men who are driven by strong emotions to revolt against the cock-blocking of their mates. However men without options would do best by doing whatever it takes to keep the woman around.

Or in manosphere short-hand, women – don’t cock block your alpha man or he’ll ditch you.

Emotions are not some mysterious personal event that are entirely subjective and individual. Evolution selected for them, and they perform simple and obvious functions. We feel positive emotions for what benefits us (and our selfish genes) and negative emotions for what doesn’t.

A highly socio-sexual man with options will get furious at jealousy, and lose attraction for the woman. His affection will diminish, and her grabbing tight onto the soap bar will cause the soap to fly out from her grasp.

You can blame the man all you want, but the wall is still a wall, the floor is still a floor, and reality is still reality. Blame has nothing to do with it. Drop a ball and the ball falls. Every time. Cock block a man with options and every time he’ll be pissed and wonder what the fuck he is doing with you.

The way to keep a man with options is with honey. Vinegar will only drive him away. Give him good reason to be with you. Compete. Be someone he wants to come home to. And then suck up any pain you have regarding his free time not being with you. Or leave.

There is no third option.

And if you try to break up your mates affair, it won’t go well. Do you expect that showing up and telling the other woman that you are the bottom bitch is going to scare her off? If the man holds his ground it will only make the girl feel closer to him. Especially if you are at all attractive. And this can be a deal breaker for the man – to him you will be trying to destroy his life and ruin his happiness. And that will leave him no choice but to give you the boot. And this will drive him closer to the girl.

In order to choose a future off the menu, we must first visualize all possible outcomes, and then make the choice that most fits in line with the most of our desires. Navigating nowness is an exercise of creative imagination of all possible futures. You are not bobbing around at sea being pushed by currents, you are a captain and your direction is a constant choice. Nothing good can come of confronting your mates other woman, so don’t go there.

Bonus tips; 2 secrets to keeping a man:
1) Suck his dick with enthusiasm and skill often.
2) Cook well every day.

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