Went out with the two crew today for some day gaming. First time for me, which makes it a remarkable experience, so now here are the remarks.
I’d never approach girls on my own, and never open a set, or a mixed set. But my buddies have gone out a few times already, also starting from scratch, and have worked their way up already from asking for directions and then walking away all the way up to stopping full groups and getting long conversations going.
Each guy has his own style. Cody is tall,young, handsome, and outgoing. He’ll be talking to a girl while surreptitiously working the room. Come back in fifteen minutes an he’ll have an entourage of girls attending to his words and presence. Dan is middle aged and middle height and middle looking, and keeps his presence more personal. But if he walks into a girls field he’ll suck her right in and then they are both in their own shared bubble. He opened two teenagers today and after 15 minutes walked away with an interested number.
It was explained to me that it’s most encouraging to think in terms of baby steps, instead accomplishing a grand goal. I blew off a little nervous steam explaining that this whole thing was completely new to me and a little un-nerving. I’m comfortable and even in command when introductions have been made and there is a social excuse for being together – like on a date or what have you – but just walking up and making a go of it from scratch is, well… foot tap foot tap.
As Dan was nodding along appreciatively to my nervous venting a pretty girl with just the right face and bubble butt combination walked past and I was asking her for directions to the ATM. Stumbled forward through a few other questions, and tried to feel her out for how to ease into her world, to playfully engage her, and stumbled and bumbled my way through a few awkward moments, all the while delighting in just looking at her pretty petite elfin girly face. Then politely let her go.
Ya, that was fun.
As the night went on the guys were killing it. Codey was a machine – he stopped a large mixed group and got the two hotties entranced with him and got a number. I was able to get the number of his spillover – the girl I preferred for her height. Both are 18 year old psych students, living in our area. Dan bumped into one of his regulars, and after graciously letting me have a go at flirting with her, pushed me off in the direction of Codey’s group, so he could abscond with the girl.
Later in the night other girls were opened – mostly by Codey. A number for me, and a stupidly missed opening for a number, the regret which I shall tuck away for further use to spur me on to never let that happen again. At least get the number – even if you throw it away! That moment won’t come back. Ok. Lesson learned.
But the big lesson was that that was fun!
I’m pushing fifty, hanging out with my buddies and chatting up teenagers and early twenties girls, and we’re having fun and getting numbers and (for them already) dating and sex comes out of it.
So that’s a beginners eye view of his first day out day gaming.
Without my buddies I’d have wussed out and just said hi in passing to a few girls on the street and smiled at a sales girl. The guys are breaking it down into managable and learnable pieces, acting on them, and making great progress.
Codey and I concluded that even with a full harem, day game can be a component of a chosen ideal lifestyle, not just to stay sharp, not just to keep girls in the pipeline, but because it’s fun.