I was just curious if anyone on here cared about what social class a girl comes from?
I will take a girl that has good manners, and comes from a good/wealthy family over a girl that is hotter but doesn’t have that going for her.
Anyone else feel the same way?
I used to think that I preferred self aware meditating women only. Then I realized that many of those have an unbearable neurotic burden and that meditating had no correlation to cheerfulness and easy companionship.
But I was still sure that I needed high intelligence. Until I saw that a woman with high intelligence is very smart at rationalizing crazy bullshit.
I’ve been with women of all classes and intelligence and education and meditation ability.
Number one is her affect. Is she cheerful? Is she easy to get along with?
Class doesn’t affect affect.
I don’t care if I find the girl in the trash can. If she makes me feel good, she’s good.
But after that, yes, all the other attributes weigh in. They are a minor consideration. I’d never choose or reject a woman based on the minor considerations only.
Oh, also it’s of benefit to me if the woman considers me above her station, and that I have way more money than she could expect to earn on her own. That’s just Having Hand 101. The expense of having this hand means nothing to me – making money is my job, and I do my job.
And don’t forget about the trade offs.
If your mate value score is 100 gold coins, how much of that do you want to spend on youth and beauty, and how much do you want to spend on class, intelligence, and a long background of wealth?
Let’s not kid ourselves, sexy debutantes are rare and have higher expectations than sexy trailer trash girls. Those are the top apples on the tree.
The apples lower down are more likely to look up to you, to cherish you, to treat you like a prize, like a king.
Ya, if I my mate value points were 10,000 gold coins, or if I could find a debutante who could be persuaded that it is, then a deb would look superior.
But given the choice between a deb who views me as low down on her hypergamous list and a trailer trash hottie who views me as way up on it, I’ll take the trailer trash hottie.
Or given the choice of an older and plainer middle class girl and a trailer trash hottie, I’ll take the hottie.
The coin that must be spent on class detracts from coin that can be spent on hotness.
Of course I’m working on increasing my coin, but I don’t believe that coin is all in the head – that everything boils down to confidence. I believe that’s a self hypnotic idea that is on par with a delusion – a psychosis even. You want to know what is a limiting belief? Reality is a limiting belief. There is an inter-subjective world of mate value rankings – and confidence plays only a part in that – it’s not the whole of the mate value ranking.
Update: What does a feminist call a man who is aware of female hypergamy? Intimidated by strength and independence.
He he – women are masters of puffing out clouds of dissimulating snark. If women were not always looking for men of higher station than them, men would prefer women of higher station. It’s the hypergamy that makes women with income less attractive – they are less likely to treat the man well if he earns less.
Update 2: We know that women tend to think first with emotion and rarely with math, so when they hear that most women want to date up, but most men don’t care if they date down, they rarely realize that this means that the more money they make, the smaller the pool of eligible men AND the larger the pool of women competing for these men. A 35 year old lawyer only wants to date an attractive man of greater means, but so do all the other women – including those who are hotter and younger. So why would Mr. Rich bother with Ms. Hypergamous? Because she’s a lawyer? Men don’t think like that. We’re happy to date the secretary, if she’s hot and feminine. Hypergamy means that women can’t have it all. It’s mathematically impossible. Hypergamy plus a high paying career = not enough high enough status men to go around therefore the choice for women is between career and a satisfying dating life. Women have no choice about only being emotionally satisfied with men who out earn them, and as they earn more, there are not enough available men (because men don’t restrict themselves to women of means), therefore if a woman wants to be satisfied with her mate, she has a greater chance of that if she earns less money.
But again, women think first with emotions, and rarely if ever with math.