Why men bond over sports
Posted by xsplat on October 15, 2012
iknowexactly: Guys/people who are chronically demonic and predatory are actually really rare and even other criminals are disgusted by them.
This is a good insight, that doesn’t seem to be intuitive to everyone.
A lot of people think it’s a fear of God or retribution or a history of proper upbringing or strong social supports that keeps people behaving well towards each other.
But the fact is we are born with the innate predisposition to feel good being nice to each other and having others be nice to us. Our empathy is biologically hard coded in our mirror-neurons.
Sociophaths number about 1 in 100. Enough that we need to be aware of them, but not enough that it should alter our default theory of mind. People are naturally nice, by default. Especially when dealing with their in-group. To get someone to be nice to you all you usually have to do is to convince them that you belong to their in group. Maybe by liking the same sports team.