Love after the red pill
Posted by xsplat on September 13, 2012
Men are biologically hard wired to be duped by women. We are naturally saps, all of us. Love leads us into slavery to women, who don’t love as we expect them to.
But here is something I believe is missing in the discussion. The educated man of the world can gain hand over women, and play them to his advantage. He gets far more hand over them than women have ever had over men.
The man who is expert at creating, building, and maintaining attraction can make a love slave out of his women, and can enjoy deep affection.
It’s not a problem that women love opportunistically and conditionally. It’s an opportunity.
I’m a businessman, and very often I will run up against nearly insurmountable obstacles. Every single time this has happened, it has wound up in the long run being a doorway to a greater opportunity. Necessity is the mother of invention. Always, without fail, there was some bigger picture opportunity beckoning me, but I never would have listened if not for necessity.
The love of women is like that. This is not a failure of love. This is an opportunity to restructure love to your advantage. To rework your own expectations and to rework your ability in manipulating the woman.
For those guys who complain that they don’t have the energy for such a full time job, well, go cry in your pillow then. Or go lay in the fetal position and drip morphine into your veins so that you can die peacefully. Give up. Whatever. Just don’t whine about it. No one needs to hear you whine about the weather.
And for the guys who complain endlessly that society is now fucked up, OK already. It is. Fine. When do you plan to get over it? You think your complaining about the weather is some form of activism? It’s just a pass-time of venting that evades dealing with things as they are now, and using this seeming obstacle as a doorway to greater profit.
Fulfilling romance with the opposite sex can be very easy, and all the skills necessary to have it can be permanently internalized such that they are not only effortless, but unstoppable.
Such skills are won as a slow process of natural manly maturation, and come from dating. They come from age, keeping your heart open, and being social.
Don’t give up. It’s a workable, good situation, full of opportunity.
Hero said
Sing it brother!
Self reflection and improvement is hard work but is ripe with opportunities for growth.
“No one needs to hear you whine about the weather.”
I agree. Sometimes we all gripe about the weather but in the end we need to realize that we have no control over it. We have control over which clothes we choose in order to enjoy our lives out in that weather.
xsplat said
Ya. A little group whining is fine, but making a hobby out of it is just dwelling in negativity. But what’s worse is when people mistake their group kvetching for some sort of social activism.
Then it’s a really counter productive negativity. You get a sort of satisfaction out of being dis-satisfied, instead of working hard to find novel solutions and adapt.
Because plenty of guys are adapting and thriving. It’s a choice.
Hero said
I really appreciate your practical approach.
How’s the boxing treating you? If you are ready to start sparring with other guys, I can tell you, that is where the fun begins. Bag workouts are great but the real sport starts when you have an opponent that punches back. It is quite an interesting dance to get yourself in range to land a punch and not get caught with one yourself.
xsplat said
Good point. Trading blows really is the next step, isn’t it?
I commissioned a larger heavy bag to be made today. Over these last weeks of training my wrists have grown stronger, and they are no longer constantly mildly sprained, so if I put a little follow through into the punch the bag swings into the wall. I like making that kind of shove punch, but with the small weight of the bag there isn’t enough resistance to build up much more strength than I already have. So I commissioned a bag that is taller than me and as fat around as I can hug with my fingers still touching. That ought to help put a little Bruce Lee style meat on my bones.
That’s another thing, the muscle the bag puts on is different from heavy weight training muscle. Not bulky muscle that shows under a shirt, but a high density sinewy muscle that has some endurance to it. I guess I wasn’t working the gym hard enough, because I rarely felt sore, but with the bag I can feel sore for days. And train as often as I want, with little regard for recuperation time. A few times a day, and even before and after the gym if I want.
Oh, and I bought one of those bags between a spring. Don’t know the name of it. It’s connected to a spring on both ends and ties to the roof and floor.
You’re right – the next step would be to look into whether there are any places to spar in this city. I’m just wary of blows to the head causing even very mild neurological degradation. No excuse not to trade body blows though.
Hero said
Yeah, you really have to get past the fear of getting punched in the head. It’s a difficult hurdle.
The bag that is attached to the ceiling and the floor is called a double end bag.
You talk about wrist pain. You are using hand wraps, aren’t you?
xsplat said
Ya, I use the hand wraps.
It’s not getting hit in the head that I’m afraid of, exactly. It’s mild cognitive impairment due to head trauma. I keep coming across articles about that. Even head butting a soccer ball has effects.
I think there was no way around the initial wrist sprains. I’ve got small wrists, and they couldn’t hold the correct posture at first. I kept the spraining slight and just worked through it, and now can throw a full punch without pain. The knuckles of the small fingers of my stronger right arm are still usually bruised though. I figure that too will pass as they get stronger.
Impact actually makes the bones and ligaments stronger, as you know. So the weak wrists are sorting themselves out.
Wudang said
You could prepare yourself with iron short qigong first to reduce the risk of trauma. In itself it can be a dangerous practice if overdone and if done before a solid foundation in more basic qigong but with your previous training you`ll be good and you will figure it out and do it safely. You can withstand A LOT more with solid iron shirt training. I think it will energetically masculinize you as well but not quite sure about that. Be careful with Mantak Chias version because it has some inbuilt dangers. The problems are addressed at alchemicaltaoism.com.
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Well said man, well said. So often men focus on the negative possibilities and fail to see the positive opportunities. Women are no different.
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