I think less in terms of morality nowadays, and more in terms of power. If something is beneficial, it’s often beneficial for someone, at the expense of someone else. If we belong to the group who would benefit, we’re more likely to consider the action moral.
So I prefer to simply look at strategies of power, and forget about judging them as moral or not. I think the reason we hold moral judgments is just another exercise of power, to get other people to limit negative actions against us, and perform positive actions towards us. Not that this is “wrong”, of course, because, as I’ve said, my way of thinking now looks at strategies of power rather than categories of strategies. Being moralistic is one strategy to power. It seems to me that this strategy is more effective in smaller groups where people know each other. Where you have anonymous actions or actions that can’t be socially punished, morality is less effective in limiting the actions of others.
So women are fickle gold-diggers who seek provisioning and alpha sperm, not necessarily from the same man, and men like to fuck lot of young beautiful females. Which is more moral? The question doesn’t mean much. We’re both just innately biologically programmed to do that, and will use all sorts of strategies to achieve our goals.
It is a female strategy to limit men’s sexuality in order to accomplish their goal of provisioning. So they’ll call us pigs for doing the job that men are biologically built to do. That is the job of females – to thwart the job of men. It is neither right nor wrong, it’s simply a strategy to achieve the ends of controlling male sexuality and resources for the benefit of her children.
I find it easier to predict actions of other people if I can see their agendas, and I find that thinking in terms of what is moral gets in the way of seeing what really motivates people. We have public and private agendas. Only our public face is moral. Even if we believe that our personal actions are moral, the intentions behind them are quite private and hidden behind all sorts of rationalizations. Our private aims tend to ultimately be selfish. Even if we band together as a group to achieve our private aims, it’s still a collectivized selfishness – a greater good for ourselves. And groups are never universal – there is always in-group and out-group rivalry for resources.
We like to first decide what is moral, and then look to see who is acting moral, in order to correct the actions of others. That doesn’t really work in large groups where people don’t need to all share the same outward public face. In modern society people can openly clash in their opinions and beliefs, and openly express their competing personal agendas without getting stoned by a morally righteous mob.
But in modern society it’s still not usually to the benefit of even the strong to openly declare our private agendas. We instead use subterfuge to proclaim one agenda while following another – even when such subterfuge is unconscious. Women who seek provisioning while cheating on their husband will try to shame her husband for having pig like animalistic horny urges. Morality is merely a tool used to influence others to act in accordance with our personal benefit.
Women are not expected to ever act morally – they realize that morality is nothing other than a tool. It is men who tend to believe that morality exists in and of itself as an abstract principle to be guided by.