If you’ve spent some time on the dating scene in SE Asia, you’ve learned new rules. Honesty is not the default assumption. Actions and motives are more prime than words and love. I suppose that’s the basic human condition, but in SE Asia, the ideas of integrity and trust hold little currency, and one is best off not dealing in valueless currencies. There is love and good faith here, of course, but there is also a whole lot of what is neither.
I sometimes wonder if dealing intimately with near-psychopaths (the few people with Borderline Personality Disorder traits) has made me less spiritual and empathetic, and if so is that a good or a bad thing?
Dig this: Brain scans appear to show that doctors can shut down the parts of their brains that lets them empathize with pain in other people.
It makes sense, of course. Because doctors are often required to cause pain in patients — as part of treating them — doctors probably need to develop the ability to at least partly ignore the pain they’re causing, or they’d never be able to deal with the stress. The neuroscientists decided to see if there was anything in doctors’ brain activity that actually reflected this ability. So they put a bunch of doctors and a non-doctors into an fMRI machine, and had them look at randomly interspersed pictures of people being pricked with acupuncture needles and touched with Q-tips. The results?