Newscientist.com did an article a few weeks ago that mentioned that early traumas often cause long lasting neurological deveolpmental damage. The wires stop lining up. It is irreversable.
There is a higher than average level of incest and abuse in Thailand.
There is a higher than average level of personality disordrers in Thailand.
Personality disorders are developmental delays – not all the household wiring was contracted.
Thailand has cultural issues that can be looked at in terms of developmental psychology.
And what we take for granted from a literate person is well beyond the capacity of an illiterate person. Each idea attaches to a neuron and becomes a new tool for our brain. We live in different cognitive worlds.
Of course the illeterate can have their own toolbox. Thankfully we have mutual ways to commune.
People with BPD have a pattern of emotional dysregulation and perceptual organization consistent with a neurological developmental delay. There is a very ow success rate of any therapy for improvement of the real symptoms for those classified with this disorder, and roughly 10% of those diagnosed succeed in suicide. The highest therapeutic success rate has been pharmacalogical, but is not a cure.
However you view the symptoms of BPD, there are people with them, and to see that pattern, to understand what are reasonable expectations to have for a person who has theses symptoms, is useful. If your mate has actions that are hard to understand, but that can be better predicted by understanding people with similar patterns of behavior, then learn these patterns.
Update: from Boingboing.net “I found this amazing article in the NY Times on new developments with rogue elephants — they rape and kill rhinoceroses; attack villages with intelligent measures like blocking escape routes and pinning down humans before goring them to death; and display psychological traits previously only observed in people.”
And a quote from that article “We know that these mechanisms cut across species, Schore told me. In the first years of humans as well as elephants, development of the emotional brain is impacted by these attachment mechanisms, by the interaction that the infant has with the primary caregiver, especially the mother. When these early experiences go in a positive way, it leads to greater resilience in things like affect regulation, stress regulation, social communication and empathy. But when these early experiences go awry in cases of abuse and neglect, there is a literal thinning down of the essential circuits in the brain, especially in the emotion-processing areas.”