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Comment on 4 things I want that piss people off by Koanic

Koanic — Sat, 25 May 2013 02:31:10 +0000

Heh, I enjoyed this quite a bit. One of my favorite posts from you. Oh the price of honesty.

I would just point out that it seems there are 3 factors at work here:
1. Envy
2. Moral condemnation
3. Theoretical disagreement, mostly due to ignorance

I would hope that where we part ways, I am motivated mostly by 2. Which would mostly be about rotating vs permanent harem.

Comment on Blog recommendation: Danger & Play by Sherlock

Sherlock — Thu, 23 May 2013 18:37:45 +0000

New promising manosphere blog:

https://redpillhypothesis.wordpress.com/

Comment on More about escalation and masculine dominant passionate heat by UCB

UCB — Thu, 23 May 2013 16:02:49 +0000

This makes perfect sense, though I’d never made the distinction myself. I think there are plenty of women out there who confusion passionate interest with neediness as well, and there are many PUAs who seem to be playing the game to not lose these girls. I used to think the same way until I realized that true abundance meant being willing to let go of those girls who didn’t fit the model for what I wanted in a woman.

Interestingly, I was talking to one of my girlfriends though other day about something unrelated, and she made it a point to say that all of the girls she knows are hesitant to commit any energy to the aloof types. As a rule, they want to know a guy is genuinely interested in them before taking that next step (whether it be a second date, sex, or a relationship). Obviously not true for every girl in every situation, but I think it’s a pretty good baseline to work from.

Comment on More about escalation and masculine dominant passionate heat by xsplat

xsplat — Thu, 23 May 2013 11:22:10 +0000

I like that mental map of two different spectra, and how they can seem so overlapped that they get confused as being the same.

Comment on More about escalation and masculine dominant passionate heat by Johnny Caustic

Johnny Caustic — Thu, 23 May 2013 03:00:47 +0000

I think there are two different spectra, one going from passion (at one extreme) to indifference (at the other), and one going from neediness to abundance. I strive to be high on the first spectrum and low on the second.

It’s hard for many men to untangle passion from need. Men low on the sociosexual hierarchy have difficulty hiding their neediness except by faking indifference. That’s why aloofness sometimes works. But it doesn’t work as well as a passionate guy who has lots of options and alternates unpredictably between confident persistence and shifting his attention to other girls.

A lot of game is learning to fake the behaviors of men with abundant choices, ideally without sacrificing a strong sexual vibe and the courage to make bold moves.

Comment on More about escalation and masculine dominant passionate heat by Johnny Caustic

Johnny Caustic — Thu, 23 May 2013 02:46:31 +0000

Things improved a lot for me when I made the paradigm shift from “get her attracted, then physically escalate” to “physically escalate to get her attracted.” [Credit: 60 Years of Challenge.]

Funny thing…a girl who isn’t interested at all can turn around completely if you show you have a bit of sexual aggression in you, then give her 5 to 30 minutes to warm up.

Comment on More about escalation and masculine dominant passionate heat by ARoss

ARoss — Thu, 23 May 2013 02:08:13 +0000

and by crippled I mean Cerebral Palsy

Comment on More about escalation and masculine dominant passionate heat by ARoss

ARoss — Thu, 23 May 2013 01:57:06 +0000

I mean you can be aloof to the point that it hinders your game significantly?(sorry I’m still beta/crippled and it’s only been a couple months since I’ve taken the red pill)

Comment on More about escalation and masculine dominant passionate heat by xsplat

xsplat — Thu, 23 May 2013 01:51:24 +0000

I don’t understand.

Comment on More about escalation and masculine dominant passionate heat by ARoss

ARoss — Thu, 23 May 2013 01:34:59 +0000

So you can actually aloof yourself out of the game?

Comment on Debunking more PUA bullshit by xsplat

xsplat — Tue, 21 May 2013 22:52:18 +0000

Your words not only add no value, but are incomprehensible. Do you mean to mean anything by them? If so, you'll have to be more articulate. A drive by sneer is not an argument. To me your words just read like aggressive, contentless gibberish, which leaves me with the immpression that your sole aim here is to play some crude form of king-of-the-hill. Or at best an attempt to protect lazy cynicism. Troll comments go in the trash, but I'll leave your comments up for a day in case you'd like to further humiliate your troll self with an attempt at appearing to be capable of adult human reason and social discourse that adds value.

Comment on Debunking more PUA bullshit by mackPUA

mackPUA — Tue, 21 May 2013 19:46:20 +0000

Seriously why is the manosphere filled with self actualising mangina’s claiming to know game … ie 3rd millenium

& xsplat

I’m all for adding a spiritual angle, but when it veers off into mangina territory, you’re teaching vacous Oprah fluff

Comment on Debunking more PUA bullshit by mackPUA

mackPUA — Tue, 21 May 2013 19:42:10 +0000

Meditation … yawn yawn

Go learn some Milton Erickson …

Comment on Pua’s worship confidence religiously by yousowould

yousowould — Tue, 21 May 2013 13:03:29 +0000

Brutal self honesty is the only real way to ensure you keep progressing in life. As soon as you start lying to yourself, you lose the ability to address the problems that are holding you back. In my experience, most people don’t have a strong enough ego to handle the truth about their actual station in life, and so deceive themselves.

Comment on Debunking more PUA bullshit by Ruxman

Ruxman — Tue, 21 May 2013 11:37:24 +0000

“Without genuine internalized passion and interest the whole game is dull”. Indeed, Lying and and being discontinuous with your desires also harms your self esteem. Every time you lie that little flinch you feel in your body is doing you harm. I stopped asking girls directions in the day and other BS because I knew where I was going… I just say “hey, what’s going on” now.