False rape claims are common because of women’s primal instinct to demand provisioning

False rape allegations are a good example of women using the law to help gain hand as a group over men.

You might argue that the tactic is merely pathological. However underlying the seeming pathology is a common strategy. Keep men afraid of the wrath of the spurned woman.

The “you break it, you buy it” attitude towards vagina is a female centric notion that is instinctive. Just as a newborn butterfly can instinctively migrate to a single tree thousands of miles away, women instinctively know that men must be forced, by any and all means necessary, into a “you break it you’ve bought it” mentality. Provisioning is the instinctive cost of pussy.

False rape accusations are just one extreme way to enforce this policy. “He didn’t call me afer. Rape!”

Update: Another common motivation is to claim rape in order to re-establish good girl cred and get back into the worthy-of-being-provisioned category. I didn’t gang bang the hockey team because I’m a slut, it was rape!

Update: And now we see this “you were leading me on with misrepresentation” false rape claim. Women demand compensation for pussy – if they don’t get it, it’s rape.

Of kindergarten math, and defining domains of attraction, alpha, and admirable

AlphaBeta

Thinking that admirable behavior is “alpha” is one of the defining characteristics of betas and white knights.

Alpha = the quantity and quality of pussy. If being “admirable” got you lots of high quality lays the the entire Game culture would never have come into existence.

I’m not sure that only betas want to conflate admirable with alpha. It’s a habit of mind to think unclearly and emotionally in this fashion, and to want to lump together good things. If alpha is good and if admirable is good, then accordingly alpha and admirable would seem to belong to the same set.

Not all people learn to think in more nuanced ways, and of those that do not all usually bother.

Alpha is not within the same set of “good” as is admirable because alpha traits are not good in the same way that to be admirable is good. Alpha is a strategy to power for individuals. Power is good in the same way that a handgun is good. Alpha traits are good for the individuals attempt at personal power, admirable is good from the view of the collective.

Good is therefore an emotional and misleading category, used in facile quick thinking to make facile quick emotional judgments.

My favorite method to clarify thinking is to think in terms of sets. Remember in kindergarten when the teacher drew overlapping circles on the board, and drew in labels and objects into the circles and where the circles intercepted? Red, blue, round, triangular. We learned to think of domains of attributes, and see how in some cases they overlap. You can have red shapes, you can have red triangles, blue shapes, blue triangles, and you can have blue balls.

I’ve noticed that the unclear thinkers tend to not think mathematically like this. They don’t notice what are the labels for the domains, and don’t notice where the domains intersect and where they do not.

One such arrangement of domains has these labels:
One big circle labeled attractive traits
Inside this circle many smaller circles labeled as every other trait that is attractive to women, ,such as height, social power, financial power, leadership, style, handsome face, good physique, athletic ability, wit, charm, and confidence. All the smaller domains can intersect with any of the other domains.

Some people are not actually capable of visualizing such domains of attraction, and in their mind can only legitimize one or a few of them as being real, or else they conflate many domains to being aspects of other domains, for instance saying that height is actually a circle inside the circle of confidence, because height makes you confident and if you are confident you don’t need height.

Some people never learned their kindergarten math lessons, and don’t care to. Emotional thinking has sufficed up through to their adult years.

So called adult years.

Update:
Some labels could be
This is a 5 point venn diagram, so here is a suggestion for 5 points:
A) Confidence
B) Looks, height, and physique
C) Wit
D) Money
E) Leadership

Suggest other labels in the comments or better yet email me your diagrams. Go ahead and make a comprehensive list of all variables. We need to include criminal propensity in there somewhere. And it would be more fun to have labels for some of the intersecting traits, such as mastermind drug dealer, lawyer, Roosh, etc.

Not all of us have the option of being happy alone

There’s nothing wrong with solitude. You don’t need anyone else to make you happy. Break your programming, accept yourself, and just enjoy the ride. Life is too short to be tied down. You need somebody to talk to? Why? At the end of the day, what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. Be a man and learn from your mistakes on your own. You want to be loved? Look in the mirror and find it within yourself.

This advice is not suitable for everyone. For some people it is simply wishful thinking, and is not true and will never be true.

Some of us have a sex drive and have emotional and social needs that can not be met adequately in any other way other than with women.

It is a lie that all or even most men can be happy without women, and that all they have to do is find some internal balance to do so.

I’m speaking as a man who has spent years seriously devoted to internal alchemy, both on my own and with the help of a good Buddhist community. I’ve spent years studying and practicing various meditations, lived for months in solitary meditation retreat several times, lived for many months in a Buddhist monastery, and lived for many months in a non-monastic isolated Buddhist community setting.

I’m reminded of the T.M. meditators who believe that if they try real hard, and if they accomplish some internal alchemy, they will be able to fly.

They spend a great deal of time hopping in the lotus position.

The fact that none of them has ever flown doesn’t stop their very strong belief. It only seems to re-enforce it. If people haven’t flown, it’s only evidence that they didn’t try hard enough and didn’t believe hard enough.

The fact is that people get lonely, and that the cure for loneliness is not an acceptance of solitude – it’s company. People get horny and the cure for horniness is not porn – it’s women. Humans are built with levers, pulleys and buttons arranged in specific configurations. There is only so much internal re-arranging you can do – you can not re-design your brain wholesale. A very deep need that does not go away for healthy men is the need for sex and love and relations with women. It’s akin to the need for food and oxygen. It’s not a belief that can be altered by other beliefs. It’s a hard wired necessity.

Some of us find it difficult to focus and feel like we are climbing the walls and get depressed and anxious and feel desperately uncomfortable if we don’t at minimum have access to regular sex.

The cure for those negative feelings is sex. Then life becomes very pleasurable.

A man should accept the fact he will be alone at times, and that the only real love comes within, while getting some pussy in the process. I think some people are just emotionally different, cause I can care less if I’m around people. I prefer solitude… either than the occasional dick wetting session.

Ya, that’s the philosopy I often hear. “A man should accept the fact he will be alone at times, and that the only real love comes within”

That sounds really good. But its quite philosophical. Is it practical? Is it possible? I’m saying that for some of us, it is not possible. It doesn’t and can’t happen. Some of us are simply not happy being alone for too long.

Personally I start to feel uncomfortable at the two week mark, and extremely uncomfortable at the one month mark.

I know that some people don’t feel this way. But those people have nothing useful to say about my personal experience. Some of us are better off learning how to get steady access to what makes us happy rather than focusing on how to live without it. Because we’ve tried living without it and it is extremely uncomfortable.

It’s like someone with a high threshold for pain advising others that when they go to the dentist that they really don’t need to use pain killer. For the guy sitting in the dentists chair, that’s all very philosophical. Pain isn’t philosophical, and no one wants to feel it. The cure for pain is not philosophy. And the cure for unbearable loneliness and horniness is not self acceptance.

Not for all of us, anyway. And I think not for most of us.

Sex like food? Nah, how many times we heard that? Without food we die. And without sex? If it were true, a lot of betas would be dead right now and the population would be very smaller.

Perhaps the metaphor puts it a little strongly. What metaphor would you use to convey that sex and companionship is a base need built into most humans? Because there is a word called “loneliness”, I know I’m not the only person who feels this psychological requirement for intimacy.

Most humans are wired, through millions of years of evolution, to feel uncomfortable when not in a position to mate, and to feel satisfied when in such a position.

It’s not a philosophical issue of whether we can be satisfied alone and whether we need sex or not. We simply have those feelings, and nothing other than sex and intimacy makes us feel better. And nothing in the world – no drug, no other experience – feels as good on a consistent moment to moment day by day basis as that initial flush of being romantically involved.

Therefore I propose that serial or parallel monogamy, with changing up the girls from every 6 months to two years is the path that will lead to maximizing happiness, well-being and life satisfaction for those of us who are not strongly family and child oriented.

Adjusting to the facts of life

Reading stuff like this at 16 is very depressing. While it may teach me how to achieve better success with women, it makes me not want to.

Sure, I want sex. But more importantly, in the long term, I want understanding and love. Knowing that a moment of weakness will shatter any girl’s interest is impossible to accept.

Our strong sense of identity makes it difficult to realize that our habits of mind change dramatically over time. Although at your young age you have seen dramatic changes in identity every few years, you haven’t yet seen that many of them. You may also assume that once you are an adult that you will have a stable identity. It isn’t so; you can expect to have a very different identity every 5 years or so.

And so the self that grieves for a lost hope of relating with women as equal caring partners devoted to love may not have the same attitudes once you become a self who is proficient at attracting and maintaining attraction with women, and who has had intimate relations with many women and seen again and again the good, the bad, and the ugly in them.

Your grief now is temporary because the man who grieves will no longer be around.

Your identity will have to change to adjust to the new painful information. No self want’s to exist in a state of turmoil and angst for long.

You’ll have several options for adapting to this new information. Some of them will lead to a harmonious, healthy and happy integration of all information, and you’ll be able to smile inside and feel warm when you think of women.

Some adaptations would lead you to avoid women and to think poorly of them.

Some adaptations would lead you to see them as inferior beings to be exploited ruthlessly for advantage and for sadistic pleasure.

If people can go through the stages of grief and come to acceptance of death, and still enjoy the pleasures of living, you can come to terms with the facts of women, and still love and enjoy them for what they are.

When society agreed with Sean Connery

What to demand from your woman?

Jeremy

What type of duties And expectations should I demand ?

Well, what do you need in your life?

At this point I know what I do well and want to focus on, and what I want help with. I do the creative big picture entrepreneurial stuff, and I need employees and a mate to handle details. The mate gets gopher work, domestic duties, and sometimes light secretarial or simple fabrication jobs.

I have a strong expectation that the woman handle the cooking and cleaning. All of it. Oh, I might cook if I have a whim, but the expectation is that delicious meals are handed to me on time and with love and eager anticipation for praise.

Her job description allows for her arrange for help with her tasks or to sometimes fetch restaurant food instead of cooking. She manages her domain of responsibility, as long as my needs are satisfied.

Some girls will take up such an attitude from the first date, others will need acclimation. Use a combination of the fast and slow methods. The bucking bronco method of bending a woman to your will is to have hard and fast expectations and jump right on and accept nothing less. The slow method is to draw her in by gentle acclimation, graded step by gradated step, with no hint of the final outcome.

In order to combine the two approaches you simply keep your attitude of what you want and expect out of a girl, but don’t demand all of it from her in particular. Gently introduce her to duties. You might start by always ordering in food, but then ask her to cook a meal. If it sucks, don’t eat it. Have standards. Over time have her try again. Increase the frequency. Go shopping with her for food ingredients. Eventually have her go shopping by herself. Shop with her for cookbooks. If you are giving appropriate feedback and praising good behaviors consistently and ignoring most bad behaviors and angrily punishing the most extreme negative behaviors, eventually she will discover that all along she really wanted to cook you food.

She’ll take it as natural to her character to do something that was initially in opposition to her attitudes.

I needed large changes all around in my current girl, so I told her of my project. “I’m going to make a woman out of you”. My end goal was to have her change her tomboy fashion style to be sexy and feminine, change her fearful asexuality and reliance on pure heart based romance to a fusion of horny orgasmic passion with love, and change her proud fiery independent career oriented attitude to one of soft caring doting. I told her “I’m going to make a woman out of you”.

A year later she tells me how proud she is of the changes I’ve made in her, and she laughs to remember the girl she was.

Each step along the way as you see changes, praise. Praise, ignore, and punish, and go neither too slow nor too fast. Have your big picture, but go step by step.