Whisper in her left ear.

Your commands will be more persuasive if you lean in to your right and speak into her left ear.

From wikipedia on persuasion:

One way therefore to increase persuasion would seem to be to selectively activate the right prefrontal cortex. This is easily done by monaural stimulation to the contralateral ear. The effect apparently depends on selective attention rather than merely the source of stimulation. This manipulation had the expected outcome: more persuasion for messages coming from the left.[8]

You may consider sleeping to her left as well.

So-cons hate on game because reality disgusts them.

Some people are genetically pre-disposed to respect authority. I’ve linked to some studies of this many times, so you’ll have to either dig for them or google “genetic basis for moral traits” to learn more. I’ve been trying to bring these genetic moral predispositions to general awareness, but there seems to be an unstoppable mental antipathy towards the idea that ideas have genetic foundations.

Some men have the authority loving gene, and some don’t. I vaguely remember that it’s roughly 40% of men who have it.

Following and obeying is a beta trait. Social conservatives are born beta.

Conservatives also are more likely to have the purity gene, which is an enhanced sense of disgust, which broadens out into a disgust of “impure” sexuality. If that’s the way you are born, those feelings are not going to change. Those mental constructs are not memes that brains became infected with – they are innate predispositions. I believe that the purity gene is counter productive to satisfying dating in today’s sexual marketplace, and those cursed with it feel an intense dissatisfaction for social mores which allow for fucking around.

I believe that humans are not just a bunch of folks with different ideas. We are a bunch of castes, born to have in-alterable predispositions. That used to work, when society was structured differently. The purity lovers ganged together into socialist unions and attempted to enforce a one-woman per man lifetime monogamy, ensuring that unionized members got at least some poon. Nowadays the purity and authority loving men are fucked. Their union has been busted, and due to changing technologies such as the pill, anonymous urban living and the service economy that gives women freedom from economic need and freedom from gossip and freedom from pregnancy, so-cons genetic sexual strategy now has no more ability to work. It’s impossible to motivate men and women with shame only. The so-con motivators of tight social cohesion and economic rewards for mothers from one man have been mortally weakened. And this causes cognitive dissonance and an inability to face reality and adjust to it. How can you adjust to something that disgusts you?

I believe that a person can adjust to reality, love women as they are. Not love just “good” unicorn women, but love actual woman who all have the innate nature of being cunning and conniving self interested gold diggery amoral hypergamous devilish whores who will cheat on your or divorce you and steal your wealth or bitch at you for no reason or just generally be troublesome and difficult to manage like an irrational spoiled child at the terrible two stage. I believe people can both see clearly the ugly side of female nature, and love and get along with women. Women can be successfully managed.

I also believe that social conservatives don’t do this well. They use rose colored glasses and moral codes to navigate an ugly world. And in today’s world, this navigation process fails.

Social conservatives have relied on society to do their work of seducing, dominating, and leading women for them. But those social buttresses are forever gone.

And so men must learn the masculine arts of leading the minds of women. Leading without the aid of churchy social conventional support, without the aid of financial incentive for mating, and without the aid of sex producing lifetime bonds. Or even of children producing lifetime bonds. Can so-cons learn to adapt and to love leading women without social support?

I think not. I think their sexual strategy is now largely maladaptive, and causes them cognitive dissonance that they will find no remedy for. Other than bouts of blissful ignorance and long stretches of empty hope.

Update: Johnny Milfquest made my day by posting a youtube reading of this post with commentary. The inflection in his reading voice is great – and seems to add to the comprehension. I now wish my internal reading voice weren’t so flat and bland. Although occasionally when drunk on lack of sleep, the reading voice will alternate between Simpsons characters. He also provided an interesting related link: http://www.ornl.gov/sci/techresources/Human_Genome/elsi/behavior.shtml

A fun emotional anchor for your room

The man is responsible for holding and creating the mood of his household.

One trick to have your woman feel surrounded by a balance of secure love and erotic excitement is to use an anchor object.

Go to your hardware store and purchase some extension cable wire, switches, lamp sockets, plugs and sockets. Create a hanging or standing lamp of your own design. It could be a simple string of sockets that hangs from your ceiling, or a single bulb on a bottle. I like to use low wattage incandescent bulbs for this project, either white or colored. Fifteen watts can work. This is an ambiance light, not a reading light.

Then create simple lampshades out of rolled up white art paper. Use watercolor paints on this paper. You can paint on the flat paper, but I like to paint on the already rolled up tube as I like the effects of gravity dripping the paint. Another effect is to paint with salad oil, which will render the paper translucent where it touches. Do this project with your woman. Friends may be invited to try their hand.

Don’t worry if your drawing and craft skills are clumsy and childish. That’s part of the whimsy. You’ll find that it’s hard to go wrong with this project, as the overall effect of colored light is entrancing. Imagine a back-yard evening party. Now imagine it with paper lanterns.

The reds and greens and yellows of these lampshades will create a mood. That you created this project together is an emotional anchor that will remind her of how the two of you fill the space with positive emotion.

You can’t achieve the same effect with a store bought artifact.

Sex to the power of sex

I understand that this is a touchy subject to broach. I’ve never had much success introducing the idea of sexual chi-kung. Perhaps there is too much ego investment involved, perhaps it is just too much of a stretch of the imagination to imagine something that we have no personal experience with yet.

There is a way to have sex that is quite different from what you are likely doing now. It feels qualitatively and quantitatively different. You feel the sex feelings not just in your dick, but also up your spine and throughout your body, and even in phantom-limb type areas outside your physical body, such as above your head and below your feet. The feelings can be far more intense than any orgasm, and can last for a long time. If you’re in good health, you can have a peak sex experience for an hour or two at a time. Such sensations are so intense that you pretty well are forced to scream.

When I fuck like that and don’t come, the girl gets no feeling that I wasn’t getting off.

Another aspect of this type of sex is very sublime attention to sensations. Have you ever had a shared orgasm where as the girl starts to come you feel your sex feelings suddenly rise up, and it makes you join her in orgasm? There can be a feeling in a mutual orgasm that your energies are mingling. Whether or not this is an accurate description of physical energetic forces is immaterial. That is the subjective kinesthetic interpretation. Ecstatic union is an art form, that when practiced with skill and power can have a tremendous effect on your lover.

Girls who have thought of themselves as incapable of orgasm, girls who have had dozens or even hundreds of previous partners and never came before can become able to come for minutes and tens of minutes at a time, many times in a session.

People are generally energetically illiterate. I find it a shame. And what’s worse is that people stubbornly and dogmatically cling to their habits and beliefs about sex.

Sex can be profound and powerful. You can feel intensely present and alive and powerful and feel a full force of love and skill and control and ability, all the while screaming your fucking head off.

Yes, the girl should come. It’s important. You will feel her orgasm throughout your whole body. Her coming is your coming.

You don’t have to release sperm. She won’t miss it. She’ll learn that you coming makes you tired, and won’t want you to come. She’ll want more fucking, when you fuck in this fashion. She’ll become an addict to your cock, and you will own her heart, mind, soul, and body.

People often embark on this new way to have sex after a single life changing peak experience of energy shooting up their spine. After some practice they can feel this sensation at will, and feel it especially strongly during sex. Amazing and life changing as this step is, it is but a small initial baby step on the way of profound kinesthetic re-organizations. Your neural network can re-organize such that it connects up more parts of your brain, and you become a synesthete with a central organ of perception being an embodied and present kinesthetic awareness. You will grow new types of sensations throughout your kinesthetic body that you never had before. This will affect not just your sex, but your every waking moment.

And some non-waking moments as well.

If this is a subject that interests you, I would suggest searching out continuing ed classes in Chi-kung in your area. Books and videos are also available, but I believe you’ll find personal instruction to be more inspiring. Another branch of practical study is Daoist energetic practices. Kundalini practices are a bit dangerous, but you may want to risk doing them for a time. Back off when you get wiggy. Those practices are a bit like LSD. They can be so intense that they can be hypnotic and disorienting, even as you feel they are orienting. However they are useful to open up new perceptions and to shake your perceptions out of habit. There are also many kinesthetically oriented meditations from various traditions that broaden and deepen your sense of present self.

Are men with the purity gene more apt to be beta?

I’ve mentioned many times that of the 5 basic moral traits discovered that have a genetic correspondence, not all are universal.

From futurepundit.com
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Greater Disgust Response Associated With Political
Right?

John Alford and John Hibbing, noted researchers on the biological basis of political orientation, have joined with a few other researchers in a Plos One report on evidence that rightward leaning people appear to have a stronger disgust reflex.

Disgust has been described as the most primitive and central of emotions. Thus, it is not surprising that it shapes behaviors in a
variety of organisms and in a variety of contexts—including homo sapien politics. People who believe they would be bothered by a range of hypothetical disgusting situations display an increased likelihood of displaying right-of-center rather than left-of-center political orientations. Given its primal nature and essential value in avoiding pathogens disgust likely has an effect even without registering in conscious beliefs. In this article, we demonstrate that individuals with marked involuntary physiological responses to disgusting images, such as of a man eating a large mouthful of writhing worms, are more likely to self-identify as conservative and, especially, to oppose gay marriage than are individuals with more muted physiological responses to the same images. This relationship holds even when controlling for the degree to which respondents believe themselves to be disgust sensitive and suggests that people’s physiological predispositions help to shape their political orientations.

The report has an intro with a pretty interesting survey of what is known about the biological basis for political orientation. Here’s an excerpt:

Disgust has been referred to as “the most visceral of all basic emotions” [11]
and the lust-disgust axis is often seen as the original building block of all emotions [12].

The role of disgust in the avoidance of disease, one of the primary sources of mortality over the centuries, makes it essential to survival [13].
Numerous connections between disgust responses and social behavior have been identified [14]–[16].

The foundation for hypothesizing a connection between disgust response and political behavior more specifically is anchored the groundbreaking work of Haidt and colleagues [17],
[18].

On the basis of numerous large N surveys, Haidt reports that people on the left make judgments primarily on the basis of two “moral foundations:” harm avoidance and a desire for fairness/equity. People on the political right, on the other hand, display similar attention to harm avoidance and fairness but demonstrate additional concerns for purity, in-group/loyalty, and authority/structure. Interestingly, these differences in moral foundations hold up across cultures [18],

a finding consistent with the work of Schwartz on cross-cultural similarity in the relationship between political orientations and
patterns of values as well as work on the relationship between political orientations and personality traits across cultures [19]–[21].

This nuanced view of differentially weighted decision considerations is the basis for expecting people on the right to be more likely to emphasize purity/disgust as a foundation for moral and political orientations.

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I’ll post the research about genes linked to high libido and risk taking and their distribution here shortly.

I’ve been speculating that some men are genetically pre-programmed to prefer a cad lifestyle, where they can bond with women who have a sexual past, in serial and parallel monogamy. Romantic libertines have been studied to be preferentially chosen for sex and even for bonding over purely family oriented men with low socio-sexuality score who strongly prefer lifetime monogamy.

The sexy son hypothesis is not merely about the dark triad traits. Women also preferentially have sex with men who have genes that code for high libido and low disgust – and especially the combination, which allows for a high socio-sexual score along with romantic inclinations. The madonna/whore complex is either absent or less compelling in such men. As romantic bonding with a woman with a sexual past and a desire for novelty and a high libido leads to a greater likelihood for serial monogamy over lifetime monogamy, and as serial monogamy leads to greater number of children for men (but not women) than does lifetime monogamy, women who feel secure in their provisioning and economic stability may choose men disposed to serial monogamy and caddish behavior, as their male children would be more likely to father a greater number of children, thus furthering also the mothers genes.

I’ve also speculated that those with the low socio-sexual score and the purity gene tend to be pussy pedestalizing beta providers.

What do you think?

The human condition dictates that it’s near impossible to empathize with the enemy.

I’ve discovered that while it is easy to elucidate one’s preferred sexual strategy, and moderately easy to elucidate several sexual strategies, it is difficult to extremely difficult to empathize with and accept the validity of alternate sexual strategies.

And so on forums, you get camps fiercely fighting about why their way is best, and why other people are doing it wrong.

This is exactly what I do. I consider this part of the human sexual condition. We believe in our strategies, and our strategies are in competition with other strategies.

For instance the alpha cad strategy of leaving cuckoo egg children for cuckolds to raise is viable. As is lifetime monogamy. Both strategists tend to revile each other as either chumps or antisocial scum.

Our busy-body brains don’t recognize large anonymous groups and think all individuals impact us personally.

Kate:

The dried-up hags in their 30s you refer to are looking for long-term substance, while you fellas are looking for a fling.

Mike C:

OK, whatever. But again, why do you care? If a bunch of older guys (30-40) are avoiding the dried-up hags why do you give two shits about that?

Because what she is fighting against is the male condition, and females have subroutines built right into their brains that are designed to do just that. Females ally into a troupe that acts as a union. Or a mafia, if you will. And they rally to limit the social system, to be in their favor.

Males do the same.

But these brain subroutines specialized to gossip about and affect society evolved mostly when our tribes were small, and everybody knew everybody.

The idea of anonymous people who don’t count doesn’t really exist to these subroutines.

Everyone counts – and must be swayed by female propaganda. Or male, if you belong to that beta class of lifetime monogamy enforcers (who largely ally with the feminine imperative).

The cad and slut strategy largely relies on anonymity. On the net, we have a brand new type of anonymity. Honest, open, factual anonymity.

That spins the social enforcing subroutines into a tizzy.

Women Orgasm More For Wealthy Men

From futurepundit

A British researcher finds that women come more often in the arms of wealthy men.

“Women’s orgasm frequency increases with the income of their partner,” said Dr Thomas Pollet, the Newcastle University psychologist
behind the research.

He believes the phenomenon is an “evolutionary adaptation” that is hard-wired into women, driving them to select men on the basis of their perceived quality.
The study is certain to prove controversial, suggesting that women are inherently programmed to be gold-diggers.

Women are turned on by wealthy men. It really is true. But the idea that stereotypes are true of course is evil crimethink. We are encouraged to respond to such thoughts by engaging in what Orwell called CrimeStop. But the mental
technique of CrimeStop is protective stupidity. I do not feel more safe as a result of the promotion of this mental technique.

The desire of women for a wealthy man seems an obvious product of evolution. That people behave in ways that are a product of our evolutionary history seems obvious to me. Of course ignorant people come up with all sorts of alternative explanations for why we behave as well do.

Cassie is unrepentant about dating rich men. “Of course it is much better to sleep with men with lots of money,” said the 27-year-old lawyer from London. “Any girl who tells you different is lying. Rich men are powerful and successful and confident and charismatic. They know what they want, and they go out and get it. That translates to being fantastic in bed.”

Women do pick up on the confidence of a successful alpha male and most are attracted to it. So pick-up artists like Roissy advocate a strategy of adopting alpha male behaviors as pick-up techniques. While some (though not all) of his female readers object to the efficacy of these techniques I think he’s right overall. But if you can create wealth then you’ll do even better. Alpha behavior techniques plus wealth work
better than just wealth or just the techniques. So it still helps to get rich.

We are the products of our evolutionary history Denying this does not change us. The denial just leads us into rationalizations to explain why we engage in behaviors that are evolutionary strategies.

Inner game isn’t the entirety of game.

At times I’ve had in mind trading up to a hotter girlfriend, and was waiting for my status to rise to make my move.

I can hear the keyboard jockeys sputtering already – but – but – but with game, you don’t NEED status.

Whatever.

For me, higher status enables me to aim higher. End of that conversation. When I can move up, that’s when I’m likely to.

Yareally

You will never rise up in status while you believe you need to rise up in status.

High status people are high status because of their internal beliefs, not their external achievements.

Oh God, here we go.

I’ll never rise in status as long as I believe that I need to rise in status?

What kind of Jim Carey mumbo jumbo new age bullshit “I create my reality through positive visualizations” coolaid did you swallow?

Working hard on my business raises my business. It doesn’t rise from prayer and visualization and positive mental beliefs and shamanic rain dancing. My consistent hard work was what was effective, and my business did improve. And along with it my status, as evidenced by the outward displays of status, including control over employees and property.

I was getting laid fine when I was broke. But when I had a girlfriend living with me in an eight hundred dollar A YEAR unfurnished hovel in the middle of nowhere where the only furniture was an old twin foam mattress on the floor of one of the rooms along with a blue 14 inch TV, my prospects for upgrading were not as good as when I had two centrally located luxury apartments and a renovated and staffed office.

But noooooooooooooooooo. That was all in my head.

God.

It’s as if you either don’t know, or don’t want to know the difference your pad can make. I’ve had a regular fuck buddy come to my new hotel, and refuse to fuck me as it was too downscale. At the time I also had two other cute girlfriends, and my mojo, confidence, and charisma were flowing fine. I’ve had another girl take one look at the inside of another bungalo and tell me flat out that it wasn’t good enough for her. I still made my moves and got a finger wet, but I would have done much better in a better pad.

The first time I had an entrepreneurial high swing I was surprised to have first dates start telling me what a “great personality” I had. Throwing around what was to me petty pocket change on wine and food and whatever I had a whim to buy apparently improved my personality. My fat wallet was the male equivalent of big firm titties, and made me a genuinely fascinating human being. And that contributed to getting laid. Wealth and power and status are in and of themselves attraction triggers. They will attract her to YOU. You as a person.

When you don’t have enough money for new shoes and have to cut your own hair, you can get laid.

When you have enough for anything you can think of, you can get laid more, by more women.

I’ve done very well when flat busted dirt poor broke. Even with the love hovel rats that would nibble on our toes while we slept to test if we were dead enough to eat, the hot young girls would still cut my toenails and smile when they brought me breakfast. It’s no grand revelation that how you carry yourself affects your attraction and what you can pull.

But if you don’t know the difference that money can make, you’ve never had money.

But I don’t need to start this conversation from scratch. It’s been done before:

http://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-7546.html

I’m not impressed by confidence boosting attempts at self hypnosis that rely on blocking out aspects of reality. “Money makes no difference as long as I have inner-game!” All attraction triggers that work belong to the category of all attraction triggers that work. There is not one subset of attraction triggers that is more real than the other. Inner game is not more real than outer game. Outer game is not what categorizes you as a “real” alpha. Whatever works in reality is what works. And reality is enough. We don’t have to limit or augment it. Reality is plenty to work with.

When a concept brushes up against our sense of self in an abrasive way, we brush it off. If your sense of self is invested in either inner or outer game, you won’t want to open your eyes. This will limit your tool set.

Every attraction trigger is a real attraction trigger. There are not some that are more real than others, and attraction triggers do not reduce down to one main essence called confidence. Confidence is ONE attraction trigger, that can do a lot.

Again – it’s helpful to bullshit yourself into believing that confidence is the 100% sum of game. For some, that bullshit will help them hypnotize themselves into a hyper confident mental outlook.

But you don’t NEED to bullshit yourself, in order to maximize the benefit of confidence. You can realize and admit and acknowledge other real attraction triggers, without getting all wheezy and weak. A weak minded person with tissue thin confidence needs to bullshit himself, but any one with a stronger ego can afford to realize more reality without crumbling from the inside out.