The architectural tone of your relationship
Posted by xsplat on August 12, 2011
There is some basic architecture you can enforce. Examples of what I do with my girl:
1) I enforce a dress code. Her habit and inclination is to wear jeans. When she is with me, they are forbidden. It’s a pink see through neglige, or similar, when in the house, and only dresses and skirts when out.
2) Her habit is to hold my wrist. This is bad body language, as it’s dominant. I enforce her, again and again, to wrap her elbow around my forearm. She is not fond of this, and will in five or ten seconds drop that posture, so I just grab her arm and put it back. I’ve been doing this for a few months now.
Basic architecture will set a tone, and a mood, and this will change her personality and how she views you and how she relates to you.
My girl is unrecognizable in her actions and appearance compared to when I met her. I’m making a woman out of her.
Cooking and cleaning also don’t come naturally to her, but there too I’m enforcing an architecture. And that changes her and how she relates to me.
Sandra said
my boyfriend also tells me that he is making a woman out of me. i used to wear pants/jeans and sit with my legs apart. i was very tomboyish and had too much pride for my own good.
now i have dropped my forced pride, instead of always disagreeing with what a man tells me,now i accept that men generally know better. i admit my ignorance and mistakes humbly. and i learn to improve. now i wear skirts and dresses when i go out and always sit with my legs together like a girl should. my friends and family have all commented positively on my change. i think they all agree that my man has moulded me in a good way. i feel so ashamed about my past behavior though.
men like you are exactly what we girls want. but we are just too ashamed to admit that we want to submit to a strong man.